It defies all logic known to mankind. Someone does something, says something or acts in a certain way and we react. Afterward we look back and many times, we regret our actions. We swear that next time someone pushes our buttons we will just let it roll off. Sounds easy, but why do so many people flare up so fast? The key to solving this problem and eliminating this toxic behavior lies in our self-image and how we interpret the past.